Lay a Strong Foundation For a Better Relationship.
Posted: Monday, March 24, 2008
by Bobby Jensen
http://bobbyboy.net
Relationships are like houses in many ways, without solid foundations in bad weather, they may fall away, not always, but there is a better than average change. This being the case, how can we actively pursue a solid relationship? Common sense would declare, "Built a solid foundation!" Where to start building that foundation one might ask? It's with you.
Taking stock
Are you honest with others as well as yourself?
Can you communicate your thoughts and feelings?
Do you have your ego in check?
Do you have the ability to compromise?
Are you generally liked by people? Why? Why not?
What do you want for my future?
What qualities do you want/not want in a partner?
Are you willing to settle?
These are just some of the questions that I would ask
myself. I would try and correct the things I could right away, and work on
those tougher ones that may have been ingrained in me for years. A good technique
could be to ask trusted friends that have known you for a long time how they
see you. Although it's true that know one knows us quite like ourselves, it's
also true that we don't see ourselves as others do either. Get constructive
criticism from the outside perspective.
If you have been in a failed marriage or relationship, use
that as a tool to critic your part in it if any. If you have been called a hard
head or too sensitive, find out what that means and how it applies to you then
correct it if need be. Remember, "Those who cannot learn from
history are doomed to repeat it."
If you have found some negative stock in yourself and
discarded it or corrected it, not only will this help you in future
relationships, but it will also have the great benefit of making you a better
person. Either way, knowing who you are and what you want from a relationship
would cut down quite a bit on time wasted in impossible relationships. Isn't
that alone worth taking stock in ourselves?
Hi Bobby, Good article about a serious topic, I hope it helps even just a few people to take stock of their own faults and work towards a better relationship with their significant other. Cheers, Ben.
Hi Ben and thank you! I hope so too, I really do.
